Last week we talked about the difference between communication and effective communication, and introduced the idea of shared meaning. We also talked about what it looks like when it’s present, and what it costs when it’s not.
This week, I want to take it a step further and talk about what it actually takes to get there consistently.
Getting to shared meaning isn’t an accident. It doesn’t happen because someone is a “natural communicator” or has good intentions. It happens when three specific things show up together.
1. CLARITY BEFORE YOU SPEAK
Most communication breakdowns happen upstream, before anyone opens their mouth. The leader hasn’t fully sorted out what they need, so they say something half-formed and hope the team figures it out. They usually don’t.
Vague input produces vague output. If you can’t articulate clearly what you need and why it matters, the person on the other end is filling in the blanks with their own assumptions. That’s where misalignment starts.
Do the thinking first.
2. INTENTION AROUND HOW IT WILL LAND
Your audience matters more than most leaders give credit for. Physical context, relational history, individual communication style, and cultural background all shape how a message is received. One message, delivered the same way to ten different people, will land ten different ways.
Your operations lead processes information differently than your sales manager. A high-performer needs different feedback framing than someone still building confidence. The words might be the same. The effect won’t be.
Effective communication means thinking about the receiver before you hit send or open the meeting.
It also takes into consideration that words mean different things to different people. Don’t believe? Get your top leaders in a room and have them all write down their definition of the same word. Most of the time, the nuances are similar, but the intent comes out different.
3. A LOOP THAT CLOSES
This is the one that gets skipped most often. You said it. You think it landed. You move on. But nods in a meeting room are not confirmation. Neither is silence on a Slack message.
First, make sure that you engage in active listening, and ask your team member to repeat back to you what is needed to get the outcome you want. You’ll want to ask clarifying questions as well to ensure everyone is on the same page.
And then…
Behaviour is the confirmation. Effective communicators check what happened after the conversation, not just during it. They ask questions. They notice whether the work that followed reflected the message that was sent.
If it didn’t, then you didn’t create that shared meaning on what was required to be successful in completing the task.
The leaders who build great teams communicate well, consistently, on purpose. The communication skill is what makes the leadership skill visible. People can’t follow someone they can’t understand.
So now what? Try those things above. Let me know how it goes.
If you are feeling more stressed than ever before,if your team is underperforming, misaligned, or dependent on you for every call, the first place to look isn’t their capability. It’s the quality of communication they’re working from.
This is exactly the kind of work we build inside Structured to Scale and how I work with leaders, developing the leadership and communication skills that let your team run without you in the middle of everything.
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